divorced not dead....

Mid life divorce after a long marriage creates a death of sorts... but leaves you still among the living without the benefit of the funeral or relief from the pain. Your not dead and realizing that simple fact it is a surreal experience that mostly leaves you stronger. I have read self help books, legal books, books who titles include the words "good", "poison","dummies", "healing" and none really tell the whole story... the good, bad, and ugly parts of divorce and the simple fact your not dead despite some how feeling you should be... make sense or is this nonsense? Join in... I've been told you need to thrive, not just survive. Not sure I am thriving.